Dreams...
A dream is that reason to aspire, that force to try, to raise a goal. The shame and high expectations are hate. Dreams are worth living. Trying to listen to the voice in our heads and convince ourselves we’re ambitious enough to reach our goals (with everybody trying to achieve them too.) is only half of the solution. If you want to close that gap between dreams and reality, I’m going to have to let go of my own biases for trying to run a race against ourselves.
Do you want to succeed as a coach? Be honest with yourself, and please tell me how you’ll get there. Do you want to be healthy? Try to eat healthier, exercise more, get fitter. Do you want to be more intentional about your energy intake? Diet and Energy are two different things but we can spend a lot of time thinking about energy. Are you emotionally willing to be okay with not reaching your goals? If not, that’s okay. It’s a limitation. But if it’s something that keeps you from achieving your goals, then be honest with yourself.
As much as dreams or goals are the hardest part of my journey, don’t give up. Sure, you’re going to fail. But maybe you’ll prove doubters wrong by making better decision after decision after decision, or writing better stories, or learning new skills. Even if you fail every time you start something new and decide to quit your dying day job, be honest with yourself. Do you want to quit it anyway? Then no, maybe it’s time to stop resisting.
And maybe you’ll see your life change. Maybe you’ll go through a big change in focus (losing some of your most unpleasant habits and finding others.) Maybe you’ll find new skills and hobbies (you’ll find a passion and do it well. Maybe you’ll gain confidence in your strengths). Maybe you’ll show up and do better. And maybe you’ll change your life. If not, it’s okay. And maybe you’ll not change your life but just kick out what’s holding you back.
Maybe, like most people, you’re not ready to become a world-renowned motivational speaker or do something so great you’re considered a genius. Or maybe you’ll be a good wife, a good mom, a good friend, and a good friend to your kids. That’s a good life, too. We all have our own differences. But in my opinion, we’re all born to reach our dreams.
Like you, I like to not give up. I want to be someone who doesn’t quit. I want to be a good coach, or a good wife, or a good mommy, and a good friend. I like that people would criticize me if I quit. “You don’t have many followers? Why are you still writing?” They say. And then I’d say, “Most of you are like ‘writers of the year’.” (Giving advice for every little thing you say.)
Thank You...
